That White Dress

The most important dress of your life.

The other day I was asking my coworker what’s the first thing she thinks about when it comes to a wedding: “the dress.”

My best friend actually just got engaged this past December in California. When I went back to visit my family, I was able to go dress shopping with her. It was the first time I ever stepped into a bridal boutique of any kind, and even I was overwhelmed. This coming from a girl who owns every season of the Knot magazine for the past two years, the Knot wedding planning book, two Colorado Sites and Services magazines, a event management textbook, and a very very extensive “happily ever after” pinterest board. Back to the story, we were looking at the dresses while the bridal consultant pulled a handful of dresses to start with. We were then directed to the area where guests of the bride-to-be sit and wait for her to make her entrance. I was sitting there with Danielle’s mom and another childhood friend, Caitlin. As soon as Dani came out in dress number one, I lost it. I was crying almost as much as Sandy, Danielle’s mom, which is a little ridiculous.

But shopping for a wedding dress is a once in a lifetime experience! And there is so much to take in when you go either for the first time, or the fourth. First of all, you have to figure out which silhouette you want: ball gown, a-line, mermaid, empire, trumpet, fit-n-flare, sheath, tea-length. Then there are necklines, colors, sashes, material. Some women know exactly what they want when they walk in, and others have no clue. It’s actually been very interesting to watch not only the designers change their styles over the years, but also to watch women that I know personally have one dress in mind and then fall in love with something completely different.

One of the newest trends that I have seen pop up this year when it comes to wedding dresses is the idea of “dress separates” meaning that the top of your dress and the bottom of your dress are not actually attached. Now this brings a multitude of opinions. “It’s terrible.” “It’s great to mix-n-match.” “The dress is untraditional and tacky.” “It shows too much skin.” “It’s fun and different!” I’m sure you have an opinion of your own.

Here is my thought: it’s just another style! Some women love the idea of wearing something fit to accentuate their curves, like a mermaid gown. Others love to feel like Cinderella and they go with the ball gown sillouette. The idea of separates is just another way to express their funky, fun, expressive style!

Here are a couple ways you can wear/pull off the new trend:


Super casual


One of the reasons some brides love this trend so much is because they just want something laid back and simple. It’s light and airy and doesn’t take much effort to still look beautiful and graceful. I have to admit, I love days where I can wear jeans, a t-shirt, and my converse so if you like the idea of being comfortable while still being bridal, this is a great way for you to do just that!


Super sophisticated:


Talk about women of power! Any woman wears a blazer and I think “Man, she is ready to get work done!” But Martina Liana takes this to another level! The two ladies above are showcasing the new Spring 2016 Separates collection by Martina Liana, one of my personal favorites. This style is so edgy and funky but it still brings in the “bride” look. My first thought when I was looking at these styles was “I feel like they just need a top hat and a veil!” (Referring to The Parent Trap movie.)


Super boho-chic:


Let’s be honest, that boho-chic look is still in! Loose layers, backless shirts and dresses, lace galore. I think this is the perfect look for any ladies out there who want to bring in that fresh, natural look. As stated on The Chic Fashionista’s website, “Bohemian fashion style has all the funky elements and the exotic zing of fashion – creating a cocktail of casual, seventies hippie style, and ethnic along with vintage.” I couldn’t have said it any better myself.


Super colorful:


Want to keep it traditional and wear white, but feel like it’s too plain? Add a pop of color!! The beautiful bride on the right was able to change it up and bring in “something blue.” Your wedding is supposed to be fun, so don’t be afraid to step out of the box and show your true colors! 😉


Super classy:


Love the idea of separates, but you aren’t feeling that adventurous? Separates don’t have to be obvious and non-traditional. You can still look elegant and beautiful on your big day while following the latest trends!

One of the great things about separates is you can kind of be your own designer and mix and match tops to make your perfect dress. It can be really frustrating to try on a dress and love the neckline but hate everything else. Separates gives you the opportunity to create something that’s uniquely you! And if not for you, apply the concept to your bridal party!


Like I said, this is just one trend that you will definitely be seeing more in 2016 thank to Olivia Palermo. This trend might not be the style for every bride, but if I may, I encourage you to extend your horizons. Try on something a little different than what you had in mind. You might be surprised!